Men Want To Know – Why Did She Leave

Men Want To Know – Why Did She Leave

“Why did she leave me?” This is the one question men struggle with. I answer the men who ask me this – after they have read my book – because, if it’s not me responding to this, who else will explain why women leave men behind? I am one of those women who left and men deserve to know.

66% of divorces are initiated by women –

There are many reasons why women leave men. Research in the US, UK and SA shows that 66% of divorces are initiated by women. I cannot say whether women are really more empowered or whether they act out of frustration, but I do know that behind the statistics of just who initiates the divorce, lie numerous reasons. Although there are so many movements that push for female market share, women are still undervaluing themselves in the workplace, with domestic violence as high as ever.

On the outside many women’s lives seem perfect –

Despite the negative reasons why people leave their partnerships, I think the reason men are asking me why I left my marriage comes from their surprise that I left a perfectly good marriage. To many, my life seemed so perfect from the outside. And that’s just it; on the outside many women’s lives can seem perfect, yet their inner life is full of turmoil with nothing less than a war-zone taking place within them.

Many who read the book, which attempts to help men and women upgrade their relationships, are supported to answer the question for themselves and also find their higher purpose within their relationship. Good for them. Everyone has an individual and personal response to the book. (More reviews on AMAZON)

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Comments (2)

  • NathaliaS Reply

    Woman awaken at different stages within their lives, and it is that awakening that her urge to find her authentic self becomes stronger than it has ever been – it is like a inner flame that gets lit, and no matter how hard you try steer clear from its warmth and colourful dancing flames, that fire draws you deep within. For me it was falling pregnant and experiencing life growing within me, that I suddenly connected with an inner being (beyond the beautiful creation of my daughter) that call me to seek the answer to: who am I? So with a 6 week old baby, I set out to find myself, and embrace the flames roaring within me. Looking back I realised, that just as I had no control of the changed happening to my pregnant body, I had no control over the changes that were occuring in our marriage, and that all I was required to do as a pregnant woman, was to truly love myself. It is on the journey to loving myself, that I loved my husband enough to set us both free, free to find our inner feminine and masculine souls, and ignite the dance with the fire within.

    July 10, 2015 at 12:28 pm
    • Adele Green Reply

      Something different triggers each of us to grow, and even when we try to ignore the ‘unconscious soul need’ are we not free from it. This will by default become our destiny. That very feeling of ‘no control’ you mention Nathalia exactly pinpoints the trigger which is also called the ‘dark night of the soul’ for good reason. What eludes those we leave behind the most is the thirst for growth. And if they do not understand and assist us empathically to transform we do not feel that there is any other way than leaving them behind. I wrote an article for the Huffington Post called ‘Making fire under men or die’ and for me this was an expression of how intense the experience is.
      Thank you for sharing you personal journey so beautifully. Leaving partners behind or staying – it is the pain we feel that teach us how much capacity we have to love as we discover it along the way.

      July 11, 2015 at 1:21 pm

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