How To Write A Book About Your Life Experiences – The Heart Of Writing A Book

what you need to know when writing a book

How To Write A Book About Your Life Experiences – The Heart Of Writing A Book

This could be you arriving for a book signing at your local book store.

How to write a book about your life experiences is such an open question. The heart of it is what keeps everything in orbit around it. I approach it in a circle and break it down to writing, publishing and marketing:

  • The best 8 questions you ask yourself before you start – and why
  • My best tips
  • Considerations revealing several challenges you will need to face
  • Suggestions of how to approach loopholes

There is technical information about writing an publishing books, an the heart of writing a book into being, and then there are the secrets an author holds back of the breakthrough of their success. That information is closely guarded, because it contains blood, sweat and tears that we learned with great sacrifice. Those we do not share.

The heart that pulses a book into being is far greater than the information and mechanics involved in writing one. A book writes itself if what you write about is important to telling. From the perspective of a n independent writer this is what you need to know about how to write a book. That book waiting inside you will materialise if your reason for its existence has enough motivation behind it. For me the whole process was a step-by-step conscious process once writing the book was flowing.

For who is this?

This is for the aspiring writer who knows that their book will make a difference. Your story needs to be told and you need to be counted. This information is specifically for the first time author who finds herself overwhelmed by the multitude of information on Google, just not knowing quite enough about whose information to rely on or what is relevant. It is for the person in transition who has not yet realised that writing about life experiences will heal them. And most of all it for those who live outside the geographical areas services by Amazon or big metropolitan areas and will later find themselves with many questions about book publishing, needing to find listeners and readers. If you want to be introduced to my path as a South African Author who got on the shelves of Exclusive Books and Barnes and Noble in print or how to self-publish successfully you are reading the right article. And I will share so much more than you can imagine.

I will share what I feel is important to know in a series of questions that you need to ask yourself with the hope that when you answer them, many of the obstacles of reaching a dream is already addressed and this will propel you in into aligned action. I also have a Masterclass Series of how to get published and you can get more details.


There are 8 important questions to ask yourself:


Are you the right person to say what you want to tell the world?


What personal conviction compels you to write a book?


Do you know that writing a book is only one third of a process that is not complete until you publish and promote the book?


Do you know how long it will take to be a successful author?


For what format are you writing?


Do you have an expert to guide you? Who are the experts?


Can you make marketing decisions before you write?


Do you know any published authors you can interview?


“90% is about crossing your t’s and dotting the i’s and 10% is about being in the right place,

at the right time.”


I answer all these questions in my new pocket ebook: Sharing my personal writing and publishing secrets, because no one will tell you. ( You can find it in in my online shop)


A book is stool with 3 legs:

Writing constitutes only one third of the process of producing a successful book. In my case, it was by far the easiest part and came naturally, a bit like the wet T-shirt that Wilbur Smith refers to when he says that writing is like a wet t-shirt – one you just have to take off . After the writing is done, you have to move ahead to accomplish the publishing and marketing of it, without which, obviously, you cannot become a successful author.


“Write a book if you have something you want to tell the world.”



Here are my best tips for preparing you for your book:

All we can think of initially is how to write a book. But once it is there it is like being pregnant and no matter what that baby has to come out. Are you ready for that? Do you have the close and the bath and feeding instructions. I like to be prepared and the hardest for me to learn is the motivation behind me sharing these tips.


TIP 1 – Learn to welcome feedback

Get ready for feedback and do not take what people say, personally. Know why you are publishing your book and stick to your truth.


TIP 2 – Create a habit to write every day

Write something every day or, if you are like me, inspired to write everything in a week, aim for at least 120 000 words. A publisher will probably remove 40 000 words. I self-published my book the first time and after receiving a publishing evaluators comments, I removed three chapters. You will need at least 75 000 words for a decent book if you want to be taken seriously and that constitutes about 300 pages.


Tip 3 – Create the best book standard you can

Get a layout professional and an experienced editor. Editing takes at least three months and you cannot rush this process. If you like to project-manage, expect to learn a lot, as each format will have to conform to the printers, the publishing house you have chosen and online publishing standards. Get a publishing evaluation done even if you are self-publishing.


Tip 4 – Understand the most important selling point of your book – the TITLE

Choose the title after you have completed your book. Have the cover designed by a professional, according to the format of your choice and prepare the relevant formats for the printers, publishing houses, online publishing, emails, your website and future advertising materials. Don’t waste your time too much about choosing a book title if you are being published.  And if you self-publish realised that in bookstores and online you cover and title is your best advertisement.


“Choose how you publish, for the right reasons.”

Look out for the Masterclass Series about what you need to know about publishing! This is is very useful and will help you deal with the overwhelm of book publishing and sift through to the relevant information even before you start writing. If you already started it will answer the many questions running through your mind. Find it in courses.


Publishing Considerations & Decisions:

A book publisher willing to take the financial risk of publishing your book is not always the best choice. But, this depends on your pocket and the inspiration behind writing your book. I was fortunate to work with a publisher who allowed me to project-manage my own process. There is vanity behind whether you are published, self publish or go with the old-fashioned way of publishing. And everyone in line makes a profit from you.

My recommendation is to read the ebook where I share how I decided to get published and why. I also share what I make on my books and how costing works. There are tax loopholes from which you can benefit and I share a bit about Amazon.

With all the options in publishing it is very overwhelming. Because we have access to self-publishing the tools with which to write is our worst challenge as the publishing selection actually determines how we format and on what software program we should write.

Just because we can self-publish more easily does not always mean we can afford what is available. To make these decisions require you to be informed. If you want to access savings to pay for this, you really need to know if you will make your money back first – that is if you expect to pub the money back after you make book sales, which means you need access to real sales numbers. To test a author’s buoyancy in the book market just see how they respond to what book sales they make.

There is the issue of cost as a barrier to entry for publishing. Just because you can publish yourself, does not mean you can afford it. So make sure you consider all the platforms available to you and how it works. You can even have a bestseller if you are prepared to spend $6000 plus.

Barcodes also need explanation because depending on how you want to be published requires different procedures. Without knowledge of how it works you can pay a lot for something which should cost you nothing.

To create a demand for a publisher to notice you and save yourself some money and effort you best understand the value of having your own personal audience. It is almost as simple as that. If they think they will make money off your book they will grant you and interview. You can learn more about this in the masterclass series. All of us know at least 250 people and our friends will help us by investing in a book, but what happens after that?

Do you know if you need a book launch? How will you decide? What will you do to get your book into the formal book distribution channels if you self-publish? Ebooks and Print books have completely different requirements. You need to know about book sales, have a plan for your book and do research. What will you make from your book and when you know that you can know what to invest. And so it comes full circle.

I share all of this in my Masterclass Series and and the ebook and most of all: You get an interview with a publisher!






Comments (4)

  • Marisa Reply

    Dear Adele, thank you always for your articles, which are so helpful.

    I would say by far the BIGGEST stumbling block I have had/do have in writing my book is a lack of self-belief and a lack of confidence that what I am writing will be meaningful or helpful for someone.

    Life gives us some hard knocks, but sometimes not as hard as the knocks we give ourselves.
    I don’t know how we get over the belief that we cannot do something. A lot of obstacles seem to get in the way and prevent me from writing. I struggle to develop a rythmn or consistency purely because life and the day job take over, so a few weeks may go by before I can write again and my frame of mind is away from where it was when I stopped the time before. It is so hard to get into a regular daily rythmn. Not sure if anyone else feels the same? I also find that my husband sabotages my writing. I love him and don’t get me wrong, I sound as if I am blaming him, but the times I set aside for writing he needs stuff or organises tradesmen to come to the house or says weekends are not for work. I feel deeply frustrated because I can’t seem to do day to day house work, cooking, cleaning etc. plus a full time job and looking after him and write when writing is really the only thing I want to be doing.
    – tried of feeling stuck and moaning about it. Anyone else feel this way? Marisa

    May 5, 2017 at 6:23 am
    • Adele Green Reply

      Dear Marisa, I just finished writing the most beautiful article for The Saturday Star about it, so please look out for it or track the radio feature
      The block is there to help you find your deepest truth and stay the path to reach your destiny as you evolve.

      May 16, 2017 at 11:28 am
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    April 9, 2020 at 1:00 am
    • Adele Green Reply

      I’m glad that I could be of service Thomas. Let me know if you have any questions. I’m happy to help.

      May 27, 2020 at 10:24 am

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