12 Stages To Help Understand Women – Dating Advice

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12 Stages To Help Understand Women – Dating Advice

Dating advice is easy when you understand women. But understanding women is not that simple, which even women will admit. There must be something that the guys who always seem to get the girls know, and what is that?  I’ll bet that you want to know.




Dating advice is overrated if you are not prepared to admit that understanding women is a life-long commitment. It does get easier when you grasp two simple things first:

  • When women close their hearts, access to everything you want closes too
  • When men are insecure, they cannot open women

What happens when a woman closed her heart?

Pain shuts women down, period. There is no pain that feels as intense as a broken heart. Something sacred has been taken from her. And her chest becomes so tight that she cannot breathe. To women this invisible pain is real. At that point that you (as a man) understands this, you will know what you are supposed to do to open a woman’s heart again when you read the stages a woman goes through, below. You can expect to be tested by her. to check if you can live up to your promises. The harshness of her testing depends on the depth of her wounds, based on her previous experiences with a man.

What do you do when she is closed?

You cannot speak for all men, nor should you be held responsible. But from her point of view to open her heart again, you have to do the one thing that you might not think is important. You have to face her emotions. If you are prepared to accept this, you have a chance to open her up once more to engage with love.

What does it take to deal with emotions?

The one who gets the girl is the confident one! Confidence comes from understanding your own emotions. I am not referring to arrogance or appearing confident. True inner strength shines through from knowing oneself. For a woman to open again, she needs to believe in relationships. If she has shut the door to her own heart, she needs the trust that confidence brings to look within herself again. Without confidence an insecure man cannot open a wounded woman.

“When a person connects with, engages, and participates fully in this world, there is nothing insecure about it.”

Emotions are all that stand between men and women, and the love they seek.

Another word of advice:

“Masculine energy penetrates and Feminine energy receives.”

A man’s confidence comes from the inner strength to deal with his own emotions and not from physically manipulating their world, as men are taught when they are shaped into their male roles. When men are comfortable to own their emotions, this frees them to fully connect with women. When an insecure man gazes at a beautiful woman he will never penetrate her! The work starts with what is going on inside you. You will know it does when you get the cold shoulder from a woman.


From Can You See Me Naked: Grow in a conscious relationship  Chapter One,

“If a woman’s natural state is to be open, why does she close up?  

What pain is she trying to avoid? How many false promises has she had to endure? Why should she think you are any different?  Why would she believe you? And be honest… what will you do when she has opened up her flower for you?  Will you nurture her seed and thoughts of fantasy? Or will you be blown away by the wind to another flower? If I tell you how to open women, how responsible will you be with this information? These answers I hope you can answer for yourself.

When a man approaches a conscious woman, although she might not be able to articulate her needs clearly, her heart will not lie to her about your intentions. She will feel every inch of your sincerity or lack thereof, and beware: once you enter Pandora’s Box you better make sure you can handle the tools you use.

To open, she needs to hear that you are not like her previous lovers. She needs to feel integrity between your words and actions. Her closed demeanour is only a smoke screen for her real deep desire, which is to connect so intimately that she can hardly breathe. A woman’s pain will be projected at you, because until she believes otherwise, you are just like every other male in the male collective to her.

If your behaviour is not what you offered to her initially, her radar will detect it and close her up. To open she needs to see a little bit of herself in you; she cannot resist her own reflection, if what is reflected is the part that she loves about herself. What she cannot resist, will open her.”

Here are 12 stages that are at stake, when you are dating, and, want to understand women: 

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    • Women close their hearts to men (in general) after they get hurt.
    • Women physically experience this pain again when they remember their hurtful past in relationships as if you just created this.
    • Women find it hard to trust a new man. She blames all men for her broken heart. Why would you be any different?
    • Men have to earn a woman’s trust before she will open her heart ‘again’.
    • How long will you endure her testing before you are bored with her? If you move on, this will confirm her past pain and weaken her trust in males yet again. Some women don’t believe easily.
    • Women are intuitive creatures who can sense your intention, which means you have to mean what you say.
    • To win her trust you have to show her that you can deliver what you are alluding to, regarding her. What does your track record look like?
    • The words you use to lure her in, will later be accounted for against her expectations. Be mindful of what you say when seducing any woman. Be prepared to do what you say.
    • Until she opens for you, her pain is testing you (not she herself), to see if you are who are who you say you are.
    • It will take strength and courage to withstand a scorned women’s projections. Wait it out. You are doing your gender a kindness.
    • The more pain she has experienced, the more patience and stamina you will need to stand in for, in your evolved masculine. You might have to endure what another is doing for you in the  wake of your last relationship.
    • If you pass the test and she opens her heart for you, her body will follow.

When a woman opens her heart for you, she opens completely.  The intimacy that will be propelled by her restored faith might scare you. But, it is in this connection with the feminine that you see your own soul’s reflection. And, if you are man enough, it is this soul reflection that will spit you out, or lure you deeper in, to connect with you beyond the physical body to the next element of spirit.

If this tickled  your curiosity to better understand the world of women READ more. You are invited to enter the psych-o-logic of women. If you are dating, consider at what stage she is and treat her appropriately, this will evolve your own masculine.

 “Can You See Me Naked: Grow in a conscious relationship

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